Couples Counseling
Couples counseling is my passion. There is no greater setting for growth and change. When working with two people who are together because of an emotional commitment and strengthening that emotional bond, mental health in all aspects increases. Research clearly shows that when someone is in a relationship that they KNOW they are the most important person to their partner, loved deeply, respected, cared for, nurtured, supported, have a partner to go through life with; life is perceived differently then when they are alone or in a dysfunctional relationship.
Being in a loving relationship proves more trust, more commitment, more satisfaction, more support seeking, more support giving, more intimacy, less aggression, more attuned care giving. So basically, any scale measuring marital satisfaction, couples that know they are important to their partner come out way ahead of those that don’t. And, on an individual basis, the more securely attached you are in your relationship, the more positive, coherent and articulated your sense of self is.
There is much debate in our field that in order for one to have a successful relationship, you need to minimize dependency and be independent; that you need to be able to take care of yourself separate from your partner. There is very little research supporting this stance. Instead, research supports that the more connected we feel to our partner, the more separate, different, individuated we are, not less. And again, the more securely connected we are to our partner, the more positive, coherent and articulated our sense of self is. Therefore, that is exactly what my goal is in couples counseling; to create strong emotional bonds within the relationship.
By strengthening these emotional bonds, not only does the relationship feel safer and more satisfying, but you feel better about yourself.
Couples counseling is my passion. There is no greater setting for growth and change. When working with two people who are together because of an emotional commitment and strengthening that emotional bond, mental health in all aspects increases. Research clearly shows that when someone is in a relationship that they KNOW they are the most important person to their partner, loved deeply, respected, cared for, nurtured, supported, have a partner to go through life with; life is perceived differently then when they are alone or in a dysfunctional relationship.
Being in a loving relationship proves more trust, more commitment, more satisfaction, more support seeking, more support giving, more intimacy, less aggression, more attuned care giving. So basically, any scale measuring marital satisfaction, couples that know they are important to their partner come out way ahead of those that don’t. And, on an individual basis, the more securely attached you are in your relationship, the more positive, coherent and articulated your sense of self is.
There is much debate in our field that in order for one to have a successful relationship, you need to minimize dependency and be independent; that you need to be able to take care of yourself separate from your partner. There is very little research supporting this stance. Instead, research supports that the more connected we feel to our partner, the more separate, different, individuated we are, not less. And again, the more securely connected we are to our partner, the more positive, coherent and articulated our sense of self is. Therefore, that is exactly what my goal is in couples counseling; to create strong emotional bonds within the relationship.
By strengthening these emotional bonds, not only does the relationship feel safer and more satisfying, but you feel better about yourself.